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How to Know if a DNA Match is Paternal or Maternal?

Do you want to know if a DNA match is paternal or maternal? Using the information and techniques described in this post, you’ll be able to figure out which side of your family your match is on.

It’s very common to have trouble determining whether a match is paternal or maternal, especially if you haven’t had, or aren’t able to have, one of your parents do a DNA test.  For people searching for biological parents, this is an especially important issue. 

In this post, you will learn ways to figure out if a DNA match is paternal or maternal.

How to Know if a DNA Match is Paternal or Maternal

This post is based on Ancestry DNA and Family Tree DNA matches and aspects of the websites that are particular to those companies – but many of the suggestions will work for you no matter where you tested, so keep reading!

Is my DNA match paternal or maternal?

There are several ways that you can figure out if you are related to someone on your mother or father’s side of the family.  Most of these techniques work best if for people who are related to you at a 4th cousin level or closer. 

The reason for this is because the more distantly you are related to someone, the more likely it is that both of your parents could be related to them.  It’s more common than you might think, so don’t use these ideas on distant cousin matches.

(Read more about this concept here – basically, everyone is your 16th cousin… ha!)

But we aren’t interested in 16th cousins here.  Or 8th cousins.  Or probably even 4th cousins.  Most likely, you have a 1st, 2nd, or 3rd cousin DNA match that you have been puzzling over. 

Maybe they have a family tree, and none of the names look familiar to you.  Or perhaps they have no tree, but you would still like to try to figure out where they fit in your family. 

The most important first step is figuring out if they are on your mom or dad’s side of the family, since that immediately eliminates 50% of the relationship possibilities.

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How to Sort Matches by Mother or Father on Ancestry DNA

Ancestry automatically groups many of our DNA matches into parental groups using their SideView technology. However, their software cannot automatically determine which parental group is your mother’s side, and which is on your father’s side.

Fortunately, figuring out which parent is Parent 1 and Parent 2 is easy for most people.

You can sort your matches by Parent 1 and Parent 2 directly on your main DNA match list. using the Grouping DNA Matches by Parent feature. Fortunately, if you have a few matches that you know are on your maternal or paternal side, you will be able to quickly determine which parent (i.e. Parent 1 and Parent 2) is maternal vs. paternal.

Why can’t your DNA testing company tell if a match is maternal or paternal?

Commercial DNA tests generally only examine autosomal DNA, which is inherited from both of your parents. This means that if your parents have not tested with your testing company, there is no way for the testing company’s software to be able to tell you automatically if the match is on your mother or father’s side of the family.

The only exception to this is Ancestry DNA, which was mentioned in the previously section of this article.

In the sections below, I’ll give you some ideas about how to figure maternal or paternal matches even if your parents haven’t tested their DNA.

It’s Possible to Sort Matches by Mother or Father on Family Tree DNA, too!

On Family Tree DNA, it’s not as intuitive on how to sort your matches by paternal or maternal side.  You can still do it, however. 

The tabs for maternal and paternal matches will only work if you have connected them to your DNA on your family tree on the site.  If you haven’t done this, you can still sort your matches using the “In common” feature.

To sort the matches easily without having to go through those steps, first click the little people icon under the “Actions” column on your FTDNA match list on the line where it shows your mother or father. Then, a little drop-down menu will pop up and you should choose “In Common With” from the options.

This will only show matches that you share with the parent that you selected. The matches that you see on this list will also match that parent, which usually means that the match is only related to you on that side of the family.

Use shared matches to determine maternal or paternal DNA match

If you haven’t had one of your parents test, are searching for your biological parents, or can’t have them test, then you will need to use other techniques to figure out which side of your match is on. 

The exact way that you do this and how effective it is going to be depends on:

  • how many matches you have
  • how close your matches are to you
  • how close the match is that you are trying to learn more about
  • how much information you already know about your family tree

In this section of this article, I’ll show you some ways to try to deduce whether your matches are maternal or paternal.

The Shared Matches feature on Ancestry DNA and the “In Common With” on Family Tree DNA are often overlooked.   You would be surprised at how many people just look at their long list of DNA matches and feel overwhelmed, never venturing into the realm of shared matches.

Don’t let this be you. 

If you know which side of the family at least one of your 3rd cousins DNA matches (or closer) is on, this tool can really help you figure out your tree.

Pretend that you want to know how “BobbyMiller123” is related to you.  He shows up as a possible 2nd cousin match, but he doesn’t have a family tree. 

You have a good relationship with your biological mother (maybe you grew up with her), but your dad has been out of the picture and you are searching for his name and his family using DNA.

If you have a sibling to compare with your DNA match

As an example, let’s pretend that you have a maternal half-sibling.  We are looking for matches on your dad’s side of the family. 

On Family Tree DNA, you can find shared matches by searching for “in common with”.  First, check the little box to the right of your known family member’s name, and then press “=in common with” at the top of the match list. 

I then recommend using a notebook (you should have one dedicated to your DNA results and notes) in order to write down the screen names of all of the shared matches that you share with this individual.  It is very likely that all of the shared matches are related on the same side of the family as the known relative. 

You and your half-sister won’t have an identical DNA match list, but it’s not only because you have different fathers. (read more here) Your maternal matches at the 2nd cousin level and closer will definitely show up for both of you, however, and this can provide you with the clues you need to eliminate the maternal matches and focus on the ones that don’t show up as shared matches with the sister.

If “BobbyMiller” does not match your maternal half-sister, then he is definitely on your paternal side of the family.

The list that you made of all of the shared matches with your maternal half-sister will help you remember who is on which side of the family as you go through the rest of your matches.

When you have time, make notations near their names of the 6-8 surnames that appear in the first few generations of their family trees – it’s tedious but can really help.  This can help you if you are searching for biological family, or when trying to figure out how a match is related to you and you don’t have a close relative as a shared match.

If you don’t have a sibling to compare with your DNA match, you can still find out if it is maternal or paternal

Pick the closest match that you already know how they match you (except any children that might have tested).    For example, an aunt, a paternal first-cousin, or even a 2nd cousin. 

The only requirement is that you know the side of the family that they are on, and they be closer than a 4th cousin match. 

Use the following clues to learn more about your match:

  • maternal or paternal aunts, first cousins, grandparents: any shared matches will provide immediate confirmation on which side of the family they are on, and will share all of your closer matches with you and many as distant as 4th cousins
  • half paternal or maternal aunts and uncles:  any shared matches will be related to you on the side of their family that is related to your parent
  • great-aunts or great-uncles (siblings of one of your grandparents), or half-great uncles or aunts:  these individuals will share both family lines, or only one with you, and shared matches with them can be useful for eliminating which side of the family your match can possibly be on.

Additionally, more distant cousins can help you figure out which side of your family your match is on. For example, shared matches with second and third cousins can help you confirm how a match is related, but there is something important to note:

  • Second cousins can share much less DNA than closer cousins, and it is possible for third cousins to share no DNA. 

If the mystery match doesn’t share your second or third cousin as a match with you, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they aren’t related on the same side of the family.  The second and third cousin shared matches are more useful in confirming how someone is related to you, rather than how they are not.

Alternative ways to determine which side of the family a match is on

If you don’t have access to shared matches with a close family member, or you are searching for biological parents, it can be really difficult to figure out which side of your family your matches belong to.  But since it is extra important to do so, here are a few other ideas that might work for you:

Look at your match’s family tree for clues

Look at their family trees, if they are available, and see if anything on them matches something that you have been told about either side of your family.  For example, I was working with someone who was trying to locate her husband’s biological grandparents. 

The husband’s father was born in Illinois, and the mother in Maryland – she didn’t know anything more than that about them.  When her husband had a close match show up with a long Illinois pedigree, she was able to use this information to sort matches on his tree.

Ancestry regions in common with your parents can let you know which side they are on

If your parents had different ethnicity or cultural backgrounds, you might be able to determine which side of the family your closest matches are on just by clicking on their profile and looking at the major ethnicities that are listed. 

This is not an effective tactic for matches that are 3rd cousin or more distant, since you share less DNA with those relatives and thus their individual ethnicities are less relevant to your DNA results.

Geographic areas in common can let you know if your DNA match is paternal or maternal

If you are comfortable with the idea, try this: if you know where you were born, or where either one of your parents lived for most of their lives (especially if you know your parents grew up in very different geographic areas), and you have a very close match, you can try to see if you can learn additional information about your match by doing a Google search for the username. 

You might be able to find social media profiles, or posts on other genealogical sites inquiring about or discussing family tree information.   I don’t recommend “stalking” anyone by any means, so please don’t do that. 

I simply recommend gathering as much information as you can so that you make educated guesses and jump to logical conclusions.  It’s a process of elimination.

  • If any of the above strategies help you learn which side of the family they are on, then you can use shared matches with them to learn even more.
  • During this process, take good notes and write down if you notice anything interesting.  It could come in handy later on during your search.


I wish there was a foolproof, guaranteed, 1000% accurate way to really know for sure which side of the family your match belong to.  That said, I hope that in this post you learned some ideas and strategies about how to use the information that you do have access to in order to figure this out for each of your closest matches. 

It’s a great first step in reaching your family research goals, whatever they may be.

Do you have any questions, or stories related to figuring out which side your match should be on in your family tree?  I’d love to hear from you in the comments, especially if you have an idea that I didn’t mention that really worked for you.

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RD Looman

Monday 1st of July 2024

23andme has two data features that I wish all the DNA test folks had and would use. They are first they test for and post maybe 95% of customers haplogroups. This is so handy for both figuring out gender grouping from mom or pop. 2nd great feature is that 23andme have a magic box (my description) near the very end of the relative's data in review. The box simply says Here's where you and the relative you're reviewing are compared with many dna in common other relatives in your basket of cousins. It's generally pretty quick and easy to recognize who 23andme has thrown you in with so many others that share dna with you and this cousin you're comparing with. Wish ALL of the DNA Test folks would post our haplo groupings. (Yeah, I know, FTDNA does it, but then that's their big promotional. One little problem is that FTDNA uses a different haplogroup code designation than does 23andme...? Oh, well... can't get it all, can we.


Monday 23rd of August 2021

My brother has a different dad to mine. We share female cousin "A" who on her shared list has a Male cousin "B" I share matches with "B" and "A" but my brother doesn't. Now the complicated part on Shared Matches with Cousin "B" a female cousin "C" is listed at the top of his shared matches with me! Now Cousin "C" is definitely from my Dad's side.Confused as my brother never knew his Dad only given a name after our mum died no real info.I'm thinking could my brother's dad have been a distant relative on my Dad's side and used a different name!

Sheila McColgan

Friday 30th of October 2020

Mercedes i have had my dna done several years and yours's is the first info i can relate to that's written in layman's or woman's language thank you


Friday 30th of October 2020

Hi Sheila, Thank you so much for your comment - I am flattered and glad that my articles have helped you :)

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