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Why Do I Have DNA Matches That My Sibling Doesn’t Have?

This is a question that comes up often in the genetic genealogy world.  Why do I have DNA matches that my sibling doesn’t have?  I’m so glad you asked!  In this post, you will learn why you and your full siblings don’t share all of your DNA matches.

Why do I have different DNA matches than my siblings?

Spoiler alert:  It doesn’t mean that you and your siblings don’t share the same two parents.  Though it can, if you are half-siblings.  Check your matching centimorgans (cMs) before ruling that out!

We all get 50% of our DNA from our parents, but not the SAME 50% as our siblings.

Imagine that you are blindfolded, reaching each hand into two hats.  Each hat contains the DNA (or genes) of your mother and father.  Imagine that you take half of the DNA out of each hat.

Then, imagine your sibling doing the same thing (but imagine that all of the DNA was still in the hat… it’s never-ending DNA).

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What do you think the odds are that both you and your sibling grabbed the exact same 50% out of each hat? 

The answer is that it is almost impossible for two (non-identical twin) siblings to have the exact same DNA.  It turns out that two siblings share approximately 50% DNA – sometimes a little more, sometimes a little less.

The consequence of this is that since there is some DNA from your parents that you got, and your brother didn’t get, and some that you didn’t get that your brother got, there will be people on your DNA match list that match one of you, and not the other. 

Even though you are all genealogically related (you are in the same family tree, whether you actually share DNA or not).

The other situation that occurs almost all the time is that one sibling will share more or less DNA with a cousin match than the other sibling.

An example of how two full siblings share different amounts of DNA with the same cousin

Both my grandmother and her brother have taken the Ancestry DNA test.  They are full siblings.  There is a cousin match on both of their pages who is still a mystery to me.  Let’s call him “Jack”.

  • Jack matches my grandmother at 76 centimorgans (cMs) and is under the 4th-6th cousin category on her match list.
  • Jack matches my “Uncle Bob” at 354 cMs and is under the 1-2nd cousin category on his match list.

While I still haven’t figured out how this happened, I do have a theory:

(Note:  This is assuming that Jack’s tree is correct.  If one of his great-grandparents really isn’t his great-grandparent, and is one of my great-grandparents, well, then this theory wouldn’t apply)

I believe that Jack is related to me in a few different ways, based on the knowledge that my grandmother’s family has been in the U.S. for centuries. 

This means that there are multiple DNA segments from multiple lines that could have potentially matched my grandmother.  In other words, mostly likely both of my grandmother’s parents had several segments that would have matched Jack.

But since DNA is inherited randomly, and we only get 50% of our DNA from each parent, my grandmother randomly got less of the segments that match Jack from her parents.  And her brother probably got most or all of them.  Randomly.

Maybe someday I will figure out who Jack is.  If I do, I’ll write a post about it!

Do you want to get more from your DNA results?

If you have already done a DNA test, it’s important for you to know that building a family tree is the best way to get the most from your DNA results.

I recommend building trees on Ancestry. It’s free to do so, but having a subscription comes in handy for viewing records and helpful family documents.


I hope that this post helped you understand a little bit more about how you and your siblings can have different DNA matches, and why you might share different amounts of DNA with the same relative. 

What do you think?  Did you find any mysteries among your match list that didn’t match your sibling?  I’d love to hear from you in the comments below.

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Sunday 3rd of January 2021

My mother has several cousins that show up between 4th-6th cousins on Ancestry that have 30+crm's, but they do not show up on mine, even when selecting the 'distant cousin search.' Yes my mom shows up as my mom. This is so shocking to me and of course a bit saddening. Am I not really related to them or is the trace so small in me, it does not show up? They just uploaded my profile a month ago....could they show up later or could they show up under another DNA company like 23andme?


Wednesday 10th of March 2021

Hi Denise,

Remember that you only receive 50% DNA from each parent and therefore it is perfectly normal that you would not share DNA with some of your mother’s cousin matches as there is another 50% DNA you did not inherit from your mother. (Same applies to your father). These cousin matches of your mother are still your cousins from a genealogical perspective. You just didn’t inherit DNA from the common ancestor.


Friday 27th of November 2020

I'm curious, if children get 50% from each parent how it is that my heritage, which is primarily 37% Norwegian and 47% english, and my then husband had almost 100% native American Indian, that I have a son with 50% Indian and my daughter has 31% Indian, but has 46% English 3% Spanish, and traces of Basque, Senegal, Mali, European Jewish, Cameroon and Bantu?

Not any of those came from my side, and if my son is 50% American Indian, doesn't that mean that his father has to be full blooded, and if he is full blooded then where do those traces for my daughter come from?

Pat Krenik


Monday 30th of November 2020

Hi Pat, Children do get 50% of their DNA from each of their parents. However, it is a randomly selected 50%. All we really know for sure is that your children's father had at least 50% Native American DNA, since you know for sure that this region must have come from their father. It's possible for all of one particular region to get passed down (especially when it is a large percentage of someone's ancestry) and none of another, or more or less than 50% of a region to get passed down. Since your daughter only received 31% Native American compared to her brother's 50%, we know that her father would not show 100% Native American on a DNA test. This means that the other regions that are showing up for her were likely inherited from their father. Your son simply happened by chance to inherit all of his father's largest DNA region. I hope that this explanation helps! Sincerely, Mercedes

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