Have an Ancestry DNA: Close Family category match? Who is this person? How are they related to you? Is there a way it could be a mistake? I’m going to answer all of these questions, and more, in this post.
How is a Close Family match related on Ancestry DNA
DNA testing companies use the amount of shared DNA that you have with someone in order to determine the approximate relationship. There is a range of amount of DNA typically shared between all relationship types, and most of the time, these ranges overlap. In this case of the Close Family category, a person who is your DNA match and falls into this category has one of the following relationships to you:
- niece (1301-2193)
- half-sibling (1320-2134)
- double-first cousin
- first cousin (very unlikely, but possible)
I don’t know this person – it must be a mistake
If you know, or thought you knew, all of your close biological family, and you just did the test out of curiosity, perhaps looking for your ethnicity estimate, you might be surprised to see a DNA match show up as a close family match to you. When a test taker sees a close match that they don’t know, the initial response is often skepticism. Maybe the results are wrong?
While laboratory errors are possible, and they do occasionally happen, they are exceedingly rare. It is much, much more probable that the person who you see as your DNA match falls into one of those relationships that I mentioned above.
How do I figure out how a Close Family match is related to me?
Since people who fall into the Close Family category can be related to the test taker in a few different ways, you have to be creative and use a combination of common sense and traditional genealogical research in order to figure out the most likely relationship. I’ll give you some ideas here on what to look for.
Check to see how many centimorgans you share with your match
Centi-what? Centimorgans is just a unit of measure for defining the length of DNA segments. (Read this article to find out how to see your shared centimorgans on Ancestry.) For each potential relationship level, there are generally accepted ranges of shared centimorgans. This may help you exclude a particular relationship, though there will still be some overlap and you’ll have to use more of these tips to get a better idea of who the match is to you.
Do you have any Shared Matches with this Close Family match?
This is a great way to figure out which side of your family your mystery match is on. If you are new to your search for family, and you don’t know much about your biological family, this is also a great way to “group” your matches into family lines. A Close Family match will share many matches with you, and so you can safely assume that the closest of those shared matches are on the same side of your family tree.
If you know something, or know a lot, about your family tree, and you have shared matches with your Close Family match, this will be able to tell you a lot about your relationship. When I first did my DNA test years ago, my top match was an unknown person to me. My second top match was my dad’s first cousin (making me certain that my father was my father). In order to figure out who my mystery match was, I had more people from different lines of my family do the DNA test. Eventually, based on shared matches, I was able to determine with 100% certainty exactly which group of siblings my match descended from.
Can you figure out how old your match is in relation to the test taker?
If you can determine the approximate age of your DNA match, this can sometimes help you eliminate a few possibilities. For example, if the mystery DNA match is about 20 years older than you, then obviously they cannot be a grandparent or a grandchild to you.
Check out the geographical area where their close ancestors were born
When I write “close ancestors”, I mean parents and grandparents. If you have relatives in common with them (instead of them with you), then the parents and grandparents are the only people who you might share in common. So look to see if you can find out the city and state of where they lived, and where they were born. This can give you some clues.
In my own family, I had a first cousin match come up, and we were able to figure out that since she was born in a particular town, and I had an uncle who had lived in that particular town his whole adult life, and that this town was very far away from where all of the other members of my family had ever lived, that he was her biological father (and he was, as a paternity test later showed).
Have you tried to make contact with your match?
Depending on who the match is, their particular family background, and their motivations for taking a DNA test, you might be able to make contact with your match and learn something from them about how you might be related. Your match might be able to tell you whether they are adopted, or are looking for a half-sibling because their parent mentioned that they had one, or never knew their biological family. Or maybe you are the one looking, and they have a great family tree already built and you can use that information to find out who your parents or grandparents are.
Before you make contact
Because of the nature of your close relationship with this DNA match, and because (depending on who you are in this situation) sometimes an unexpected Close Family match can sometimes (but not always) be the result of an event that people might have been trying to keep a secret, you should be careful when considering making contact.
Here are some tips:
- Make sure you take screenshots of their family tree, if they have one, as soon as you can. While most people won’t intentionally try to hide information, some people do and have done this. Most likely, their family tree is your family tree, and this information can be very helpful to you.
- Be cautious when writing your message. Be specific, yet not too specific. For example, if you are adopted and only know information about one line of your family, you can say something like this – if they have no family tree online that you can find: “Hi, I am wondering how we might be related. In my family, I have Smiths and Browns from Connecticut. What are the surnames in your tree? I am looking forward to hearing back from you.”
- If they have a family tree posted, and none of the surnames match what you were expecting, you can still write a message: “Hello, I saw on Ancestry that we are a Close Family match. I have Smiths and Browns from Connecticut, and I see that your family is from Connecticut, too. I’d love to exchange messages to see if we can find the connection.” This way, you aren’t implying that either of your family trees are “wrong”, per se, but you are drawing attention to yourself as a match. They might do some research about the possible relationship categories, and come to some conclusions on their own – and maybe help you out in the process.
- While I recommend being honest with your DNA matches, if you are adopted, I don’t think you necessarily have to mention that in your first message. You could say something like “I don’t know much about my family history, and am trying to learn more.” If they respond and seem friendly and helpful, you can then let them know that you are adopted (if you want to).
I hope that this post has helped you understand a little bit more about your Close Family match, and that you have excellent luck in figuring out exactly who they are to you. If you have any questions about your match, please feel free to leave a comment here and I’ll see if I can help.
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